If you are reading this, we are pretty sure that you are a kind and caring individual. The question is, how easy do you find it to be kind and compassionate with yourself?
Practising self-kindness opens the door to the power of self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-love and leads the way to personal growth. All of these are important throughout your life’s journey, so if you are interested in learning how to love yourself more, keep reading!
How you relate to other people and perceive their behaviour towards you is closely linked to self-love. It is true that in order to have healthy, fulfilling, loving relationships in your external world, it is vital to know, love and accept yourself fully and unconditionally.
Why we need to put self-love first
Here are just a few of the reasons why self-love is so important:
- Teaches you to embrace and accept yourself just the way you are
- Gives you the ability to forgive yourself for past mistakes
- Releases you from past trauma, so you are able to heal and move forward
- Increases self-worth
- Makes it easier to focus on solutions rather than problems
Without a doubt, being kind to yourself is easier said than done, especially if you have already developed self-sabotaging habits like negative self-talk or suffer from low confidence or a lack of self-esteem. Indeed, facing our innermost fears can be a terrifying prospect, especially if your inner critic has been very active and present in your life.
There is hope. All of the negativity that is preventing the acceptance and love from happening inside of you can be reversed. It is possible. Let’s delve deeper into how we can do this and what actionable steps you could take to get you to living a life of self-love and happiness that you deserve.
Take time for yourself
At this moment in time, you are probably dedicating more time to your job, family, and friends than you are to yourself. This is something normal, but quite frankly, it is not sustainable. Eventually, you may begin to feel despondent about life and begin to feel undervalued. You’re not putting yourself first, and that’s not good for you. You should make a change and start carving out time for yourself, even if it’s for short periods at a time. Soon, it will become second nature to factor in time for you into your life.
You have your favourite things to do, and whether it’s something creative like painting or culinary like baking, it’s important to invest in these activities. You could even take a long warm bath, or go for a walk and listen to your favourite music. The point here is to make this a regular and consistent thing in your life – do something daily!
By spending time away from being productive for something or someone else, you’re gifting yourself the emotional bandwidth to make necessary adjustments for growth and development in all areas of your life.
Acknowledge Your Achievements
Give yourself the recognition you deserve for your accomplishments. When you achieve a small or big goal, you should celebrate, bring out the bubbly or do something equally nice and give yourself praise! Don’t wait for an external acknowledgement to happen. The recognition you give yourself is valuable too.
Fuel Your Inner Cheerleader
We are all our own worst enemies and are sometimes harder on ourselves than anyone else – your inner critic can be super judgmental, and it needs to be silenced.
Try to go one day without criticising yourself; instead of fueling your inner critic, rather cultivate the little voice in your head that stands up to criticism and advocates for you. This is your cheerleader. This level of self-awareness requires real work and attention. The inner critic is well established and has created a story that has, over time, that even though it is negative, has become believable and trusted.
It’s time to rewrite that story!
Embrace your good qualities:
What are your best qualities? Write them all down and embrace them as your strengths while cultivating them to be even stronger.
Even though you might not have the best temperament in the world, you may make up for it by having a keen eye for detail; focus on your good qualities, and they’ll overshadow any weaknesses.
In much the same way our bodies are a direct reflection of what we eat, our minds are also a reflection of the thoughts and information we subscribe to.
Give yourself daily affirmations such as, “I am enough!”, “I am worthy!”, “I deserve the best!”, “I am capable”.
Making these positive phrases part of your daily routine will have a drastic positive effect on how you see yourself.
This works because an affirmation, repeated consistently, can literally rewire your subconscious habits on an emotional, physical and mental level.
We have a free downloadable of affirmations available here.
Every single person has strengths and weaknesses, good characteristics and bad habits – embrace yourself for all that you are: The good and the bad. Nobody is perfect!
When we stop criticising ourselves for our faults, we can be much more accepting and content in our own skin – accepting yourself is the greatest form of self-love and should be reinforced every day.
Self-love should never be misunderstood for selfishness or self-obsession. A lot of self-love is a very healthy part of the relationship you have with yourself. The great thing about continuing the self-love movement and implementing methods to increase the love for yourself is that it will spill over into other people’s lives and will positively impact your relationships.
Don’t be shy. Give yourself a big hug and some much-needed love and share that with others and make self-love contagious.
Rachael and Michelle
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